mercoledì 7 gennaio 2015

Adolescenti e gratitudine.


In questo anno ho deciso di tradurre di meno e di parlare di più delle mie opinioni personali,  anche se lo spunto spesso è tratto da post che trovo in rete. 

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Oggi condivido brevemente le mie riflessioni su un tema che mi è davvero molto caro: la gratitudine
Ho trovato online questa frase in inglese, che mi è davvero piaciuta molto, e voglio condividerla. 

"Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice." (Jon Acuff)

"Vuoi un sedicenne grato? Insegna a tuo figlio di 6 anni la gratitudine e dagli 10 anni per fare pratica."


La gratitudine si impara, e può essere insegnata. Da quando ho iniziato il mio viaggio verso la semplicità sto imparando sempre di più ad essere riconoscente per i doni piccoli e grandi che ho intorno a me ogni giorno. 

Con i miei figli cerchiamo ogni sera, prima di dormire e  ringraziare Dio per la giornata trascorsa,  di pensare ad almeno tre cose belle che ci sono accadute e trovare quindi motivi concreti per i quali essere riconoscenti.

E' un'attitudine che stiamo imparando insieme, ed è bello sentire i propri figli dire: "Mamma, sono così felice che non potrei desiderare di più!"

Vi passo questa riflessione perché sto notando che  i figli imparano molto dal nostro atteggiamento e non solo dalle nostre parole. Quando ci rendiamo conto di avere abbastanza, che le cose importanti nella nostra vita non sono le cose materiali ed impariamo a dirlo ai nostri figli, anch'essi  lo realizzeranno nella loro piccola esperienza e sarà un dono che porteranno con sé per tutta la vita. 

Non perdiamo questa opportunità, se abbiamo figli aiutiamoli ad essere riconoscenti magari lasciando qualche biglietto di ringraziamento per qualcuno scritto insieme a loro, oppure facciamolo noi stessi.
Non sempre ci viene facile, ma possiamo sforzarci, l'egoismo ci viene naturale ma la gratitudine richiede pratica!

Allora impariamo noi per primi a dire grazie a chi ci ha aiutato o è stato significativo per noi in un dato momento. Facciamolo a parole, con un biglietto  o con una mail. 

Comunichiamo a chi è intorno a noi quanto è importante e quanto bene sta facendo per noi. Riconosciamo che non meritiamo molto, ma possiamo trovare motivi di gioia ogni istante della nostra giornata, per la salute, una casa calda, cibo a sufficienza, l'amore dei nostri cari. 

 "E siate riconoscenti." Colossesi 3:15


Questa è la riflessione del primo mercoledì dell'anno. Vi auguro una buona ripresa delle attività e naturalmente grazie a tutti  per il vostro tempo e la vostra attenzione.



Why I’m doing something I don’t like doing today.


Today, the Acuff family will be writing thank you notes.
Why?
Because we’re an amazing family prone to doing beautiful family activities like this. We make a big bowl of popcorn, put on some positive music and then have a fancy gratitude party. We’ll probably put it on Instagram and then maybe pin it with a plucky headline like “7 ways to be grateful!”
Only, that’s not even a little true. I don’t like writing thank you notes. My kids don’t either.
I suppose there are some people out there who have naturally generous hearts. The minute they are given a gift they’ve already catalogued it and written a long, flowing thank you note. Probably in calligraphy.
I don’t personally feel that way. Life moves so quickly that I often fail to thank people along the way. I get selfish and distracted. I focus on me and miss the many wonderful things many wonderful people have done for me. I get lost in narcissism, receiving ten gifts at Christmas and writing 0 notes.
I’ve discovered something in the last few years. Gratitude is learned or lost.
As a parent you have this amazing window to teach your kids to be grateful. To get them to connect a gift they receive to gratitude they give. To strike down the roots of entitlement before they have a chance to dig too deep. Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice.
Don’t miss this moment. If you’ve got kids, have them write a few thank you notes. If you don’t, write some yourself.
I don’t like doing it. I’m not going to pretend gratitude flows naturally from my heart like some deep well. It doesn’t. It takes practice for me. Selfishness comes easily, gratitude takes practice.
Practice today.
- See more at: http://acuff.me/2014/12/im-something-dont-like-today/#sthash.9mda95gY.dpufWhy I’m doing something I don’t like doing today.

Today, the Acuff family will be writing thank you notes.

Why?

Because we’re an amazing family prone to doing beautiful family activities like this. We make a big bowl of popcorn, put on some positive music and then have a fancy gratitude party. We’ll probably put it on Instagram and then maybe pin it with a plucky headline like “7 ways to be grateful!”

Only, that’s not even a little true. I don’t like writing thank you notes. My kids don’t either.

I suppose there are some people out there who have naturally generous hearts. The minute they are given a gift they’ve already catalogued it and written a long, flowing thank you note. Probably in calligraphy.

I don’t personally feel that way. Life moves so quickly that I often fail to thank people along the way. I get selfish and distracted. I focus on me and miss the many wonderful things many wonderful people have done for me. I get lost in narcissism, receiving ten gifts at Christmas and writing 0 notes.

I’ve discovered something in the last few years. Gratitude is learned or lost.
Gratitude is learned or lost.

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As a parent you have this amazing window to teach your kids to be grateful. To get them to connect a gift they receive to gratitude they give. To strike down the roots of entitlement before they have a chance to dig too deep. Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice.
Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice.

Click To Tweet

Don’t miss this moment. If you’ve got kids, have them write a few thank you notes. If you don’t, write some yourself.

I don’t like doing it. I’m not going to pretend gratitude flows naturally from my heart like some deep well. It doesn’t. It takes practice for me. Selfishness comes easily, gratitude takes practice.
Selfishness comes easily, gratitude takes practice.

Click To Tweet

Practice today.
- See more at: http://acuff.me/2014/12/im-something-dont-like-today/#sthash.9mda95gY.dpuf



Why I’m doing something I don’t like doing today.


Today, the Acuff family will be writing thank you notes.
Why?
Because we’re an amazing family prone to doing beautiful family activities like this. We make a big bowl of popcorn, put on some positive music and then have a fancy gratitude party. We’ll probably put it on Instagram and then maybe pin it with a plucky headline like “7 ways to be grateful!”
Only, that’s not even a little true. I don’t like writing thank you notes. My kids don’t either.
I suppose there are some people out there who have naturally generous hearts. The minute they are given a gift they’ve already catalogued it and written a long, flowing thank you note. Probably in calligraphy.
I don’t personally feel that way. Life moves so quickly that I often fail to thank people along the way. I get selfish and distracted. I focus on me and miss the many wonderful things many wonderful people have done for me. I get lost in narcissism, receiving ten gifts at Christmas and writing 0 notes.
I’ve discovered something in the last few years. Gratitude is learned or lost.
As a parent you have this amazing window to teach your kids to be grateful. To get them to connect a gift they receive to gratitude they give. To strike down the roots of entitlement before they have a chance to dig too deep. Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice.
Don’t miss this moment. If you’ve got kids, have them write a few thank you notes. If you don’t, write some yourself.
I don’t like doing it. I’m not going to pretend gratitude flows naturally from my heart like some deep well. It doesn’t. It takes practice for me. Selfishness comes easily, gratitude takes practice.
Practice today.
- See more at: http://acuff.me/2014/12/im-something-dont-like-today/#sthash.9mda95gY.dpuf



Why I’m doing something I don’t like doing today.


Today, the Acuff family will be writing thank you notes.
Why?
Because we’re an amazing family prone to doing beautiful family activities like this. We make a big bowl of popcorn, put on some positive music and then have a fancy gratitude party. We’ll probably put it on Instagram and then maybe pin it with a plucky headline like “7 ways to be grateful!”
Only, that’s not even a little true. I don’t like writing thank you notes. My kids don’t either.
I suppose there are some people out there who have naturally generous hearts. The minute they are given a gift they’ve already catalogued it and written a long, flowing thank you note. Probably in calligraphy.
I don’t personally feel that way. Life moves so quickly that I often fail to thank people along the way. I get selfish and distracted. I focus on me and miss the many wonderful things many wonderful people have done for me. I get lost in narcissism, receiving ten gifts at Christmas and writing 0 notes.
I’ve discovered something in the last few years. Gratitude is learned or lost.
As a parent you have this amazing window to teach your kids to be grateful. To get them to connect a gift they receive to gratitude they give. To strike down the roots of entitlement before they have a chance to dig too deep. Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice.
Don’t miss this moment. If you’ve got kids, have them write a few thank you notes. If you don’t, write some yourself.
I don’t like doing it. I’m not going to pretend gratitude flows naturally from my heart like some deep well. It doesn’t. It takes practice for me. Selfishness comes easily, gratitude takes practice.
Practice today.
- See more at: http://acuff.me/2014/12/im-something-dont-like-today/#sthash.9mda95gY.dpuf



Why I’m doing something I don’t like doing today.


Today, the Acuff family will be writing thank you notes.
Why?
Because we’re an amazing family prone to doing beautiful family activities like this. We make a big bowl of popcorn, put on some positive music and then have a fancy gratitude party. We’ll probably put it on Instagram and then maybe pin it with a plucky headline like “7 ways to be grateful!”
Only, that’s not even a little true. I don’t like writing thank you notes. My kids don’t either.
I suppose there are some people out there who have naturally generous hearts. The minute they are given a gift they’ve already catalogued it and written a long, flowing thank you note. Probably in calligraphy.
I don’t personally feel that way. Life moves so quickly that I often fail to thank people along the way. I get selfish and distracted. I focus on me and miss the many wonderful things many wonderful people have done for me. I get lost in narcissism, receiving ten gifts at Christmas and writing 0 notes.
I’ve discovered something in the last few years. Gratitude is learned or lost.
As a parent you have this amazing window to teach your kids to be grateful. To get them to connect a gift they receive to gratitude they give. To strike down the roots of entitlement before they have a chance to dig too deep. Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice.
Don’t miss this moment. If you’ve got kids, have them write a few thank you notes. If you don’t, write some yourself.
I don’t like doing it. I’m not going to pretend gratitude flows naturally from my heart like some deep well. It doesn’t. It takes practice for me. Selfishness comes easily, gratitude takes practice.
Practice today.
- See more at: http://acuff.me/2014/12/im-something-dont-like-today/#sthash.9mda95gY.dpuf



Why I’m doing something I don’t like doing today.


Today, the Acuff family will be writing thank you notes.
Why?
Because we’re an amazing family prone to doing beautiful family activities like this. We make a big bowl of popcorn, put on some positive music and then have a fancy gratitude party. We’ll probably put it on Instagram and then maybe pin it with a plucky headline like “7 ways to be grateful!”
Only, that’s not even a little true. I don’t like writing thank you notes. My kids don’t either.
I suppose there are some people out there who have naturally generous hearts. The minute they are given a gift they’ve already catalogued it and written a long, flowing thank you note. Probably in calligraphy.
I don’t personally feel that way. Life moves so quickly that I often fail to thank people along the way. I get selfish and distracted. I focus on me and miss the many wonderful things many wonderful people have done for me. I get lost in narcissism, receiving ten gifts at Christmas and writing 0 notes.
I’ve discovered something in the last few years. Gratitude is learned or lost.
As a parent you have this amazing window to teach your kids to be grateful. To get them to connect a gift they receive to gratitude they give. To strike down the roots of entitlement before they have a chance to dig too deep. Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice.
Don’t miss this moment. If you’ve got kids, have them write a few thank you notes. If you don’t, write some yourself.
I don’t like doing it. I’m not going to pretend gratitude flows naturally from my heart like some deep well. It doesn’t. It takes practice for me. Selfishness comes easily, gratitude takes practice.
Practice today.
- See more at: http://acuff.me/2014/12/im-something-dont-like-today/#sthash.9mda95gY.dpuf



Why I’m doing something I don’t like doing today.


Today, the Acuff family will be writing thank you notes.
Why?
Because we’re an amazing family prone to doing beautiful family activities like this. We make a big bowl of popcorn, put on some positive music and then have a fancy gratitude party. We’ll probably put it on Instagram and then maybe pin it with a plucky headline like “7 ways to be grateful!”
Only, that’s not even a little true. I don’t like writing thank you notes. My kids don’t either.
I suppose there are some people out there who have naturally generous hearts. The minute they are given a gift they’ve already catalogued it and written a long, flowing thank you note. Probably in calligraphy.
I don’t personally feel that way. Life moves so quickly that I often fail to thank people along the way. I get selfish and distracted. I focus on me and miss the many wonderful things many wonderful people have done for me. I get lost in narcissism, receiving ten gifts at Christmas and writing 0 notes.
I’ve discovered something in the last few years. Gratitude is learned or lost.
As a parent you have this amazing window to teach your kids to be grateful. To get them to connect a gift they receive to gratitude they give. To strike down the roots of entitlement before they have a chance to dig too deep. Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice.
Don’t miss this moment. If you’ve got kids, have them write a few thank you notes. If you don’t, write some yourself.
I don’t like doing it. I’m not going to pretend gratitude flows naturally from my heart like some deep well. It doesn’t. It takes practice for me. Selfishness comes easily, gratitude takes practice.
Practice today.
- See more at: http://acuff.me/2014/12/im-something-dont-like-today/#sthash.9mda95gY.dpuf



Why I’m doing something I don’t like doing today.


Today, the Acuff family will be writing thank you notes.
Why?
Because we’re an amazing family prone to doing beautiful family activities like this. We make a big bowl of popcorn, put on some positive music and then have a fancy gratitude party. We’ll probably put it on Instagram and then maybe pin it with a plucky headline like “7 ways to be grateful!”
Only, that’s not even a little true. I don’t like writing thank you notes. My kids don’t either.
I suppose there are some people out there who have naturally generous hearts. The minute they are given a gift they’ve already catalogued it and written a long, flowing thank you note. Probably in calligraphy.
I don’t personally feel that way. Life moves so quickly that I often fail to thank people along the way. I get selfish and distracted. I focus on me and miss the many wonderful things many wonderful people have done for me. I get lost in narcissism, receiving ten gifts at Christmas and writing 0 notes.
I’ve discovered something in the last few years. Gratitude is learned or lost.
As a parent you have this amazing window to teach your kids to be grateful. To get them to connect a gift they receive to gratitude they give. To strike down the roots of entitlement before they have a chance to dig too deep. Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice.
Don’t miss this moment. If you’ve got kids, have them write a few thank you notes. If you don’t, write some yourself.
I don’t like doing it. I’m not going to pretend gratitude flows naturally from my heart like some deep well. It doesn’t. It takes practice for me. Selfishness comes easily, gratitude takes practice.
Practice today.
- See more at: http://acuff.me/2014/12/im-something-dont-like-today/#sthash.9mda95gY.dpuf



Why I’m doing something I don’t like doing today.


Today, the Acuff family will be writing thank you notes.
Why?
Because we’re an amazing family prone to doing beautiful family activities like this. We make a big bowl of popcorn, put on some positive music and then have a fancy gratitude party. We’ll probably put it on Instagram and then maybe pin it with a plucky headline like “7 ways to be grateful!”
Only, that’s not even a little true. I don’t like writing thank you notes. My kids don’t either.
I suppose there are some people out there who have naturally generous hearts. The minute they are given a gift they’ve already catalogued it and written a long, flowing thank you note. Probably in calligraphy.
I don’t personally feel that way. Life moves so quickly that I often fail to thank people along the way. I get selfish and distracted. I focus on me and miss the many wonderful things many wonderful people have done for me. I get lost in narcissism, receiving ten gifts at Christmas and writing 0 notes.
I’ve discovered something in the last few years. Gratitude is learned or lost.
As a parent you have this amazing window to teach your kids to be grateful. To get them to connect a gift they receive to gratitude they give. To strike down the roots of entitlement before they have a chance to dig too deep. Want a grateful 16 year old? Teach a 6 year old gratitude and give him 10 years to practice.
Don’t miss this moment. If you’ve got kids, have them write a few thank you notes. If you don’t, write some yourself.
I don’t like doing it. I’m not going to pretend gratitude flows naturally from my heart like some deep well. It doesn’t. It takes practice for me. Selfishness comes easily, gratitude takes practice.
Practice today.
- See more at: http://acuff.me/2014/12/im-something-dont-like-today/#sthash.9mda95gY.dpuf

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